Among the new friends I made was a guy called Fresh (not his real name). He was collected, intelligent and also fun to be with. We became fond of each other, liked each other and…he asked me to be his girlfriend. He wasnte to be my boyfriend
I didn’t see it coming. Yes, I liked him but I just wasn’t expecting a “proposal” from him.
WHO THINKS THAT WAY RIGHT?
You two are friends, fond of each other, liked each other and you were not expecting him to ask the question?
Who does that? I DID.
I was just so naive that I thought we could be friends and nothing more. Funny me hahahaha.
So, I went about thinking in my big head whether to say yes to Fresh or not. A greater part of me (80%) did not want the relationship, the other part wanted it because I had never had a boyfriend, also, almost all my roommates had boyfriends.
My first boyfriend
I wanted to know what it felt like to have a boyfriend.
Before I gave him an answer, I heard God say to me “He is not a part of my plan for you, let him go” I pushed God’s word aside.
I went ahead and gave him a YES. At the point of giving him the answer, I heard God again.
He said “As you give him a YES now, you will be back to give him a “NO”.
So, we started out as boyfriend and girlfriend officially. I got tired of the friendship, because all we did was hang out, talk about politics, talk about the future and that was it.
Talking about the future made me know somethings, one of which was that he wanted to be a lawyer (definitely rise to the peak of his career).
And I wanted to be something I couldn’t place my hands on yet.
I knew I would speak to people, I knew that I loved God so much that I would work in His vineyard(maybe as a Pastor, a teacher, I wasn’t sure).
He doesn’t see himself becoming a Pastor or something. I knew that whatever I become in future, I was going to serve God with it.
I was at a point in my life where I was just beginning to know God, a point where I just started praying daily, a point where I just started loving Him, a point where I just started hearing Him through the Bible(and very few times through dreams or audible voice)
At that point, I told myself that it would be wise for me to acquaint myself with God whom I just found(He actually found me), to get to know Him more, know how things run here before bringing in a guy into my life.
So, I went ahead and gave him the second answer “NO”. I was back to square one- without a boyfriend. I was left with myself and my two friends Becky and Brenda (not their real names). They were very brilliant ladies and we rolled quite well.
In case you missed the previous post, IT’S HERE